Over at Warren Throckmorton, Michael Bussee and others have at it over the early days of the ex-gay (or "ex-gay") organization Exodus. Scroll past the initial overheated battle over minutiae down to where Ed Hurst reports that Dr Throckmorton
suggested that Exodus adopt the phrase Sexual Identity Ministry
(SIM) to replace "Ex-Gay Ministry". I've thought that one over and it
sounds workable to me.
I even thought of a clever catch-phrase
"SIM, just a step away from SIN." (Ok, if you don't know me, I am
compulsive about word-plays and I also think a little bit of humor
helps with a topic this weighty.)
The phrase only applies to the
ministry not to the individual. In the past, we might have said "he's
an ex-gay guy" where, with SIM, this wouldn't translate. So, I puzzled
over what terminology we'd use for the individual and came up with a
real winner. How about 'client'?
I was always troubled by the
fact that it seemed we took people out of one box (or label) only to
put them in another. The shift to Sexual Identity Ministry might
actually serve to eliminate the label problem too.
Yep,
I've noticed that "ex-gay" identity in some people I've met and
recoiled, perhaps not always as far as I should have done, from the
psychological stories that seem to explain everything.
Anyway, riffing off Mr Bussee's description …
You have to understand the context. It was not a mistake that EXODUS
started at Melodyland. [Melodyland] was one part tent revival meeting and
one part broadway musical. (Ironic that the choir director now conduts
the Gay Men's Chorus of Orange County,)
There were [huge] "healing"
services, lavish musical bumbers and stunning testimonies. It was alive
with the energy of the Jesus Movement and Neo-pentacostalism.
Every day we heard of "ex" drug addicts and "ex" prostitutes and "ex" gang members.
… comes Mr
Hurst's further thought-provoking comparison of "the situational
differences between attempting to leave the gay identity and attempting
to leave drugs, prostitution and gangs":
1) With DPG a person can get totally removed from the source of their
temptation. There isn't a bag of pot sitting on the pew beside you;
there isn't someone in the church offering you money for your body and
there certainly isn't anyone trying to provoke you into violent
anti-societal behavior. But there may be people that you find
attractive in both appearance and personality.You might work with them,
pray with them, share your deepest struggles with them. (As a Bible
school student, I roomed with them...saw them in their underwear. On
one evangelism outreach, I even had to take group showers with them.
The DPG don't go through that type of temptation!)
5) With DPG, psychology and society are in agreement that these
lifestyles are dysfunctional but with homosexuality they actually
debunk the notion of change. A former homosexual in the church is not
immune to the sound of these voices and these voices also undercut the
resolve.
Then most interestingly, Dr T writes:
Mr. Bussee says: "I am pleased to announce that Alan Chambers has asked
me to join him for a joint press conference to officially RETIRE the
misleading term "Ex-gay."' No word as yet if or when this might occur
but from my vantage point, this would be a fine development.
For the comments, the Red Herring of the Week Award goes to the usually more thoughtful grantdale, a long-term gay couple:
Imagine telling a Hindu that unless they ate beef they could never eat
at all? Imagine if their goodness depended on their willingness to eat
beef? Imagine if, unless they ate beef, they would otherwise be
excluded from full and equal participation in public life -- by law?
Pfft! Dr T's opponents go on to have a field day in the comment stream. Ho-hum. To my mind this is is all missing the point, as Mr Hurst eventually reminds everyone:
Mike, I found it ironic that you finished your last post with the
illustration that ex-gay minstries were inappropriately using your
marriage as 'proof'. Aren't you now using the failure of your marriage
as 'proof' for the opposite point of view? The reality is that we are
all human. We are all on a journey...learning different lessons...at
different times. Failing a time or two (or three) along the way. But WE
are not the measure. WE are not the standard. We do harm to ourselves
and others when we lose sight of this.
I'd say this points to the peculiarly Protestant cultural underpinnings of the ex-gay movement, as Disputed Mutability was suggesting a while ago.
<long aside>
By the way, see her new post endorsing Christian ex-gay support groups, despite their imperfections as she experienced them. (Some of her remarks, I'd point out, would apply equally to Courage, which has never characterized itself as an ex-gay group.)
One day, a thought occurred to me. What if I thought about my
homosexual temptations in the same way I thought about my temptations
to every other sin? Like pride, greed, or unrighteous anger?
Rather than focusing on trying to make the temptation go away, I
focused on living with the temptation, doing battle with it, gaining
mastery over it. I no longer worried about how it got there.
This worked amazingly well for me. It got me to lighten up
about my homosexual attractions. It helped me enjoy far greater peace
and contentment than I knew before. It gave me a set of goals and a
purpose that seemed more solidly Biblical to me than those recommended
by these theories about what makes people homo-attracted. And, rather
ironically, I got far better “change” results with this approach than I
did with deliberately trying to get healing for my attractions
according to those theories.
</long aside>
For it or agin 'em, the ex-gay claims and ex-ex-gay counterclaims
are kind of irrelevant when moral codes are based not on private
judgment but on the guarantee to God's people of "the objective possibility of professing the true faith without error" (CCC 890). In other words, there's a lot we don't know yet about the etiology (CCC 2357) and potential changeability of homosexual desire, but no outcome of these controversies can undermine the basic call to every last blessed one of us to live our whole lives in chastity, be it within or outside heterosexual marriage (CCC 2337-2350, esp. 2339, 2342).
Meanwhile, I've come across Jim Burroway's
attempt to debunk various stats critical of the gay movement, etc. I
hardly wish to offer a general endorsement--and besides, TLDR, as Eve Tushnet says--but I say good on him for tackling Paul Cameron--of whom Eve doesn't think too highly either (see her sidebar link to this).
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